You have asked a question to which there is no satisfactory answer — unless you decide to prioritise all other aspects of your relationship over sexuality. Trying so hard to reconcile the irreconcilable is making you very sad - and no wonder; such a gulf between thoughts and feelings commonly pitches a person into depression. This problem is not going to get better by itself, so it must be addressed urgently and directly. You need to have a very focused conversation with your girlfriend, in which you must share your true feelings without apportioning blame. Help her to see how unhappy this situation is making you, and ask her to describe her own feelings, while listening empathically. It is also essential to ask her to try to help you understand the reason for her disinterest in sex. There are many possible causes of low libido, some of which require treatment.
Reasons Why Your Girlfriend Won’t Have Sex
OK, YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS BAD AT SEX. NOW WHAT?
Updated: February 10, References. You have reached that point in your relationship where you want to take it to the next level. Some people think that sex is no big deal, but others see it as something they only want to share with an extra-special person. Although you never want to force your girlfriend to have sex with you, you can always soothe some of her fears and reassure her that you really are a person she can fully trust. After you do this, sex comes naturally. If you want to make your girlfriend want to have sex with you, show her she can rely on you by turning up on time for your dates, since someone is more likely to want to make love if they trust you.
YEP SHE IS BAD AT SEX
But first, an email from a guy who is going through this exact same problem. About six months ago my girlfriend started making excuses every time I tried to kiss her or get close to her. She would tell me that she was busy or that she was feeling tired. I tried doing things around the house to make her feel better and less stressed. I would clean the house for her and do all the cooking and cleaning but she still said she was tired and stressed out from work. Bottom line: failing a serious hormonal imbalance, if your girlfriend is attracted to you, she will have sex with you. A part of me wants to go and find another woman just to have sex with, but I love my girlfriend too much to do that. This kind of behavior is not only rude and disrespectful from your girlfriend, it shows no respect for your feelings or your needs and requirements as a man. Why do we enter into a relationship if not to have sex and possibly reproduce?
I start thinking about how we have nothing in common and I hate her little annoying Chihuahua that she takes with her everywhere. Or do you think I could change the relationship to a friends with benefits type of deal? Believe it or not, many men wind up in a similar situation. Finding a solution might not be easy, but we can unpack the problem together to gain further clarity so that you can make the right decision. Guys are usually more fixated on physical intimacy than women. We value sex much more than other parts of a romantic relationship, especially in the beginning. We have a strong sex drive and a wandering eye.